One of the outstandingingly happy couples Nancy has met through the
years is Dennis and George. George liked to tell their story this way,
"After several years of not being invited to Dennis's family gatherings,
one Thanksgiving while most of the family was making fun of us or ignoring
our absence, one of his sisters spoke up. "There is not one member of
this group of married couples who have anywhere near as loving a relationship
as Dennis and George." After a prolonged silence, heads started to nod
in agreement. Credit is given to the family, for they all agreed, and
Dennis and George were not only invited, but fully embraced as another
Celebrating a lifelong commitment is no different than a traditional
wedding where there are vows and rings exchanged. While religious and
philosophical beliefs can be a part of a ceremony, vows that speak from
the heart are the core of a
Here is a sample of some opening statement we have used.
1. Bob and Joseph, into your lives has entered a deep
and nurturing love, and you have asked this body of friends and family,
and me as a religious leader, to help you celebrate and affirm that
We would call your love partnership a "Holy Union," for wherever
there is love, God abides there also. For as long as women and men have
walked on the earth, there have been some humans beings who have shared
their deepest expressions of love with a person of the same gender.
It is our hope that one day all true love partnerships may be legally
recognized and fully affirmed.
Bob and Joseph, you have honored us by inviting us to witness your
commitment to each other in holy union. May your love grow sure and strong
and true in the days and years of your shared life together.
2. We are gathered here
today in the presence of God to witness the marriage of Susan and Mona.
Susan and Mona have asked me to explain a little about this ceremony
before we begin. Important to their ceremony is the idea that the
sanctification of their marriage, or what makes it sacred, holy and
official, is not anything that happens from the outside. No blessing
or approval is needed here; no format or magic spell is being used to
assure that their wedding is proper or valid.
What is happening here is simply that Susan and
Mona are making a series of promises to each other. It is the nature
of the promises that makes the occasion so special and important.
And what makes the occasion sacred is the acceptance of, and the agreement
to, the conditions of the promises.
The Essential Guide to Lesbian and
by Tess Ayers and Paul Brown, published by Harper Collins It's
funny and useful.
Ceremonies of Lesbian and Gay Commitment
(Between Men--Between Women); Ellen Lewin; Hardcover
Here are some links for news and activism on the subject of
Partners Task Force for Gay & Lesbian Couples - TOC
ACLU Leads Coalition Opposing Anti-Gay Marriage Bill
GLAAD: WE DO - SO DO SOMETHING!!!
FTM : The Freedom To Marry Project
Same-sex Marriage Home Page
Celebrating Lesbian Union by Butler
To email LIGHTWING@aol.com
or call (888) 467-6572
or write to: The Webers, Box 1132, Denville, NJ 07834.
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